Rejection is a Myth

I just learned that rejection is a myth. It really doesn’t mean anything and it really has no actual bearing on your life. What it all boils down to is the way you look at it. They way you decide to think about it and how you react to rejection.

This is how I have come to understand it.

Rejection is a part of life. We are rejected all the time throughout the day. The exact rejection doesn’t matter because it did not change anything in you life. Nothing is different after the rejection than it was before.

You ask somebody for something, they say ‘no’. You didn’t have it before you asked, you still don’t have it, and so nothing has changed. The rejection didn’t cause anything to happen in your life, like it never was, like it didn’t exist, like a myth.

Let’s say Frank asked Sara out to dinner. Sara declined he invitation. Frank didn’t have anybody to eat dinner with before he asked her, he didn’t have anybody to eat dinner with after he asked her. Nothing actually changed in Frank’s life.

From now on I am going to work on letting all rejections go. They don’t change my current state of affairs, so they don’t do anything to cause me any harm. My life continues as before and there is no reason to dwell on it, no reason t get all worked up over it, no reason to keep me from asking again.

Rejection is a myth.